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The F Word.


I have taken such a long break from actual blogging. The past few entries have been mostly advertorials, so yeah. It’s time I get a bit personal with my blog.

How have you guys been? Been eating too much lontong, is it? Have you been checking my blog for updates? Did you miss me even? You can just nod or shake your head at this point but even if you don’t, I wouldn’t know anyway. Hehe.

Hari Raya has been pretty awesome this far. It’s always the usual; you meet up with your relatives once a year, and you ask for forgiveness. Same ol’, same ol’. But that’s the beauty and the whole idea of Hari Raya, isn’t it? It’s not so much about how many new outfits you make or how many different types of cookies you have on the table. However, I must admit I do get carried away sometimes with the outfit part, especially after becoming a mother! It’s just so much fun when you have three little girls!

But really, Hari Raya is mostly about the F WORD; forgiving. And yes, forgetting too which should follow suit. Awwww man. The forgetting part might be a bit hard to do for some. I mean, we are not angels. If people piss us off big time, we get pissed off. And when that happens, how to readily forgive them regardless? We are not made of stone. I believe that to forgive and to entirely forget will usually take a looooooooooog time. And what about those people who refuse to change or admit their faults? What about those who refuse to give in? Or what about the two faced monsters? Grrrr.

As such, I believe it defeats the entire purpose of asking for forgiveness during Hari Raya if there is no remorse or regret. Why seek forgiveness for the sake of doing so?  Why even seek forgiveness when you will only tend to badmouth that person the moment you step out of his/her house? Like, excuse me? Too much drama is no good for the soul also.

My mantra is this; if it’s not sincere, then don’t do it at all. 

I know I am not that forgiving a person, and I also know I can be pretty stubborn at times. But can you really blame me? I am all for the no-nonsense attitude in life. I believe nobody has the right to say things as and when they wish, and expect others to swallow whatever that has been said. How emotionally hardened can one be, man? In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is to keep quiet if you have nothing nice to say. If things do not concern you, then they should really not concern you at all in the first place. The problem with most humans is this; they tend to show too much interest in a situation that really does not involve them, and fail to pay more attention to matters that concern them.

Actually, life can be pretty straightforward. Really, it can.

You see, the only person you have any control over is yourself. I mean, if people around you do not change or refuse to change, what more can you do? Or perhaps there is something you can do. Maybe you will reach a level of maturity sooner or later where you are contented with who they are or you accept them for who they are, or maybe their faults will no longer bother you. Viewing life calmly and with equanimity is not a bad choice after all. I hope I can achieve that zen attitude in life.

Remember this, you always have choices. Nobody should dictate your life or determine the choices you make.

Sometimes it may not be an easy choice. Sometimes, you make the wrong choices. But it is a choice nonetheless.

And one day, you will realize that you are no longer stuck just because life is hard, or some people make it hard for you.

Selamat Hari Raya, Maaf Zahir & Batin!

And yes, I do mean it from the bottom of my heart. <3



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